Yay we made it!

Take one day at a time - something we are told often

Carpe Diem - Seize the day

We have heard this a million times, from different people in our lives. But what does it mean to each of us... Ask anyone who knows me and they will attest to the fact that my mind goes a 100 miles a minute and I try to plan as far ahead as possible. I will draw out any and all possible scenarios... try and be prepared so that nothing can surprise me. I make sure that I am in total control of the situation before it even comes along. But things don't always work out the way we want them to...

So it definitely came as a surprise to me when someone was able to come into my life and have me head over heels in such a short period of time. And before I knew it, a whirlwind took over our lives and we were getting married. And then the engagement and wedding planning took over. We lost sight of all the good things in our relationship, why we were together. Fights became more consistent, tempers kept flaring, frustration took over... and before we knew it, we were married. Of course, things became a lot more calm afterwards. We were not burdened with as many responsibilities for the two weeks after the wedding. We enjoyed our time together, regained our focus and felt that we were ready to face what life had in store for us when we got back.... and when we landed back in the US - reality began!

We soon found out that dating and being married is two completely different worlds. We would have clash on every little thing, every minor detail would get on our nerves... But at the bottom of all of this, we knew that there is no one else either of us would rather be with. He is a very insightful, emotional and creative person, I on the other hand can be very dry, straight forward and completely lack creativity. So after 3 months of adjustment period, I think we were getting a hang of it. We learned to fill in what the other lacked and support what the other excelled in.

A year later, we are definitely getting a hang of this married thing... I think we are comfortable. Doesn't mean that we still don't have our little tiffs... we still do that on a very consistent basis. But I think we are getting a lot better an being able to understand and solve them. We both realized that we need each other to make this the best it can be. That we have made a commitment to support each other in good and the bad, in sickness and in health and in happiness and in sorrow. Faith in God and each other really helped us get through this first phase of our lives together. I don't know if we will every be able completely free of arguments and honestly I don't know if I want to.

All I can say is that I am thankful for everything that we have been through. We both always say, what doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger. Our first year has been eventful to say the least, but I think as we go on this roller coaster called life, we are both trying to live for the moment and enjoy each day!

I am sure there are a lot of new challenges ahead of us - as we become first time home owners or as we become parents (for those who are wondering - no we are not planning to get pregnant this year). I am sure there are a lot of new surprises waiting for us... and I am working on planning for all of them. I am going to try and be prepared for everything ahead but I hope there are plenty of things that are waiting to sweep me off my feet again...

Something to think about... as we live our lives

"Dance like no one is watching

Sing like no one is listening

Love like you have never been hurt before

Live like heaven begins tomorrow."